Becoming Patrick: A Memoir

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Press: Deep Root Press (April 11, 2011)
Publication Date:2011-4
Author Name:McMahon, Patrick


When Pat McMahon risks the love of the mother who raised him by seeking out the mother who gave him away, he transforms from a mild-mannered engineer into a frenetic detective. 
After he overcomes the challenges of existential angst, bureaucratic roadblocks, and unemployment, the phone call to his first mother releases a torrent of long-buried feelings.
During a sometimes turbulent long-distance unfolding, he absorbs her shocking revelations and comes out as gay once again.
Their eventual reunion creates a profound bond, even as he navigates waves of conflicting emotions, merges past with present, and embarks on a new future rooted in truth and insights into the universal quest for identity and human connection.
He is Becoming Patrick.


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  •     I enjoyed the vulnerability of this author's writing. It delves into the core of emotional restlessness of adoptees that I wasn't aware of.I felt it was a little self indulgent and whiny at the beginning but was easily persuaded otherwise as the story unfolds.
  •     Becoming Patrick is a must read for any adoptee who wonders if they're the only one who feels this way. I read this intimate memoir in a weekend. I've known I was adopted all my life - I'm 66 - and have gone through the turmoil that comes with finding both my biological parents at the age of 34. No other experience is like the life journey of an adopted person. Yet, despite all the books I've read, people I've met, self examination and therapy I've undergone about how being adopted has affected my life, new realizations have taken me by surprise while reading this book. Becoming Patrick does not tell anyone how to feel or what you're supposed to feel or offers any pop psychology about the adoption experience. This is not that kind of book. Rather, the reader is allowed into the mind and heart of one adoptee as he finds out his original name, locates his biological mother, and struggles with the uncertainty of reuniting with her. Among the more poignant thoughts that haunt me is if I was a "chosen child" was I not first un-chosen? Though highly emotional, this book a hardly a downer. Well-written and well-paced, Becoming Patrick should be required reading for anyone who seeks to understand what it is like to be an adoptee.
  •     I liked it, I liked the writing and the story.
  •     I loved this book. It was very thought provoking and I couldn't put it down once I started it. If you're tired of fiction reading, this would be a good book to read. It's a real life experience.
  •     The depths of honesty and the author's beautiful writing are what make this book special. It's more than an adoptee's story of finding his birth family.
  •     As an adoptive parent and author, i have read many books about adoption, but few drew me in and helped me to understand the intense emotions that adoptees experience.
  •     Becoming Patrick, a memoir Patrick Mc MahonThis is a most extraordinary and brilliant book.
  •     This is the first time I have written a review for a book, and the reason is this book deserves the review!I can't reccomend this book to enough people that either are adopted, adopting, or a birthparent. I couldn't stop reading the book, even though it was at times painful to me to continue due to the powerful emotions it created inside of me.Patrick weaves his story masterfully and beautifully! He knows how to create an emotional response in his readers. This is his true story and I am holding my breath for there to be a sequel! I actually finished the book and cried for awhile over the feelings of abandoment that I try so hard to repress, being adopted myself. I smiled at the memories I had of my own reunion and the joys of seeing "who" you are come to life after years of an empty frame. I felt angry at the way my fellow adoptee's are prevented from getting the most basic information and for having to go "under cover" to obtain what most people take for granted. I felt fear about my own sexuality and the future I hope to have with my partner.You will not regret reading this book and bravo Patrick for stating it all so well!Thank you
  •     Hard to put down story of the author's search for his birth mother.Gripping, emotional, and compulsively readable.A brave book and well-written memoir.
  •     The 1 star only reflects my sadness of not being able to read it. For me the print is too small, not black enough against the manilla page and it is a struggle to read.
  •     Keep in mind that I am a reader not a writer: Patrick told his story of finding his first mother in such an engaging way that I couldn't put it down until the end. His investigation into his origins was superb! He would build on one fact that he learned until he finally was able to telephone his first mom. Then to meet all his relatives in the area - what a blessing. I could go on about him finding himself through this discovery but you must read it for yourself.
  •     In his memoir, Becoming Patrick, adoptee and author, Patrick McMahon, delivers an eloquent and artistic account of his experience as a young adult coming to terms with being adopted and living in the shadows of the Baby-Scoop Era, where secrets and lies defined the practice of placing babies in new homes. This was an era of closed records, fear and shame for adoptive and birth parents, which in turn shed loss, sadness and a sense of incompleteness on the adopted children of the time.McMahon skillfully delivers an honest and emotional account of all he felt when he acquired his initial information, experienced the first telephone conversation and attended in-person reunions with his birth family. His descriptions of settings and attention to detail immerse the reader around kitchen tables, long walks and other meet-ups while long-lost family members share photos and stories while recovering lost time.This is an excellent read for adopted adults who can relate to the experience of searching for elusive loved ones you never knew you loved until you connected. Therapists, social workers and others wishing to explore adoption and its complex effects on adopted people will also appreciate this work.There are very few adoptee books written from a male point of view, which adds to this book's uniqueness. Mr. McMahon's voice speaks artfully and sincerely for a population whose words long to be heard. His frank yet upbeat writing superbly represents adopted adults wishing to sort out the mysteries surrounding their origins and identity
  •     I am a natural mother. Patrick's story was well-written and provided insights into the world of an adopted adult. My daughter, who was adopted at 6 weeks, and I are reunited. I always appreciate learning from other adopted people what the reality of their lives were like before and after reunion.The story ended too soon, although Patrick did provide a final chapter summarizing what happened after his search and the first six months of his reunion. He did say he had an emotional breakdown later, but did not elaborate. I know it is painful to write about. I just wished I knew if it was adoption related or other life issues. Thanks for writing your memoir, Patrick. Is there a sequel?

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